Top 10 Questions To Ask Any Girl When Dating Her Online
So you’ve contacted that cutie you saw online and she’s responded back to you. Great so far, but what now? How can you tell if she’s a match or a dating nightmare? Fear not. These 10 questions will tell you everything you need to know about dating a girl online.
One word of warning: don’t just ask a list of questions. Try to work them into the conversation. If you’re writing an email, just put in one or two of the questions in a phrase such as. “Could you tell me a little more about yourself? Like what’s your most embarrassing moment?” If you’re talking on Skype, for example, you can use the questions to get through the awkward pause. For example, “So, what’s your most embarrassing moment?” is a good way to transition from awkward silence to fun conversation.
#1. What are you looking for in a relationship?
This is really the top question, and you can ask it right out in your first email. Make sure her response matches what you’re looking for. Even if you two are compatible and have fun together, the relationship will quickly fracture if one person wants casual fun and the other wants a long-term contract.
Keep in mind that while most people are honest, if a woman’s going to lie in her online dating profile, she’ll often lie about this topic. She might say she wants something more casual hoping to attract more men. If you get a sense that she’s not really honest here, move on.
#2. What’s your most embarrassing moment?
This is a great question to ask after sharing your own embarrassing moment or to break an awkward pause. Her response will let you know how she handles difficult emotions and stressful situations.
Look for humor in her story. It’s OK if she’s lightly self-effacing, but not bitter or angry. If she’s still unable to laugh at the situation, she may have a hard time moving on from difficult experiences.
#3. What does your ideal day off look like?
Regardless of the kind of relationship you’re looking for, you’ll spend most of your time together during evenings or days off. Look for someone who wants to do the same things you do. Sharing activities you both love will strengthen your relationship in the long run.
It’s OK if she doesn’t love exactly what you do, as long as you both are willing to try out each other’s favorite pastimes. However, make sure you match on energy level. If her idea of a perfect day off is extreme mountain climbing and yours is extreme sofa surfing, you’re not likely to find a middle ground that makes you both happy.
#4. What did you like about my profile?
This is another good question to ask in one of your early emails. It’s a test to see if she paid any attention to your profile at all. You want to make sure she’s not just responding to anyone who sends her a note.
You also want to see what caught her eye about you. Does she love your active lifestyle, your taste in music, or your dog? Her answer will let you know what she’d like to hear more about from you and give you some good ideas for a first date if it goes that far.
#5. How often do you see your family?
Family can be a difficult issue for a lot of couples. Early in your conversation, she may mention her family and you can follow up with this question. Ideally, you both have similar ideas on how involved family will be in your lives. If you really don’t want to spend your Friday evening at Uncle Fred’s Annual Family Olympics Picnic, then a family-focused girl is not for you.
#6. What are you most proud of?
Look for values that match your own. Is she proud of a material possession, helping a friend, volunteer work, or a promotion? Her answer will let you know what she strives for. If she’s most proud of her award for most overtime hours and you despise corporate climbers, she won’t be for you.
#7. What surprises most people about you?
Here’s a chance to see a side of her that might not have come through in the profile. Maybe she has a short fuse or always wins at Pictionary. Her answer will give you a little more insight to her personality.
#8. How did you get into ____?
Find something from her profile that she seems to be passionate about and ask how she got involved with it. It’ll give you a chance to see what she’s like when she’s happy and she’ll love talking about it.
#9. What’s your favorite ____?
Fill in the blank with something you love. If you love movies, ask what her favorite is. Or you could ask about books, plays, sports figures – whatever is most important to you. This question could help you uncover common ground. Or if you love sci-fi and she thinks it’s “just so stupid,” you might want to pass.
#10. What’s your biggest ambition?
Here’s a chance to see what she really wants out of life. Is she more focused on family or career? Does she want to travel or build her own house? You both should be well aligned on your biggest life goals or your relationship will eventually suffer.
#11. Topics to avoid
Even though you’re asking important questions at this early stage, you and she are still relative strangers. So stay away from invasive topics, such as past boyfriends, the number of notches on her bedpost, or her favorite chapters of the Kama Sutra. Let her know, trust and like you before you even think about broaching these topics.
With these 10 amazing questions, you should have no problem carrying on some great initial conversations and learning everything you need to know about your possible date. So when you do meet face to face, the sparks will fly!