5 Ways To Make Your Girl Friend Your Girlfriend
It’s an age-old dilemma. You’re in love with your best friend. We’ve all been there. And no one wants to deal with the rejection, but there are ways to increase your chances of making it work. The key is evolving.
It just takes a well-thought out approach. Here are some tips that will help you approach your girl friend to become your girlfriend!
#1. Flirt a little. See if she’s open to the idea
You have to gauge her interest. Test the waters. More often than not jumping straight into the “I’ve loved you since the first day I saw you,” will of course flatter her, but not flatter her in the way that you’re looking for. You’ll get the “I love you, too, but I don’t want to ruin the friendship” line.
Subtly flirt with her, grab her hand for longer than you normally would, let it linger, see how she reacts. Look into her eyes. Of course, don’t stare for too long, that could easy freak her out, but make eye contact paramount.
#2. Make her miss you
They always say, “Absence makes the heart grow fonder.” So don’t be so available to her. It’s not about ignoring your best friend, but giving the relationship space for something new to sprout. If you are always there, answering every beckoning call, why will she need you as a boyfriend? You have to create the need.
You don’t have to stop doing everything that you would normally for her, but the point is not to jump so willingly to do them. Be too busy to come fix her sink, but offer a recommendation for a good plumber instead. It’s about balance and setting your boundaries, so that she doesn’t start to get the wrong idea.
#3. Make her work for you
This goes hand in hand with the last tip. Instead of being the one always doing things for them, start asking for favors. Your girl friend will realize how much she actually likes you.
Several psychologists believe that by making the other invest in the relationship actually creates more like on their end – instead of the other way around.
By being the one doing everything for them, they may actually like you less, because they will not have to invest anything.
#4. Gradually change the nature of the relationship
How can you be anything more than friends if the relationship is still looks, acts, and smells like a friendship? Start asking her out to dinner – alone. Pay for it, too. Change your body language towards her.
Open her doors for a change. And if the subtle flirting worked in the beginning, continue it! Build on it! Start buying her little gifts, but gifts with a hint of romance – flowering plant, a simple bracelet, things along those lines.
#5. Create Some Competition
Make her jealous. Dress nicer around her; casually flirting with other women you encounter, see how she reacts. Start going on dates with other women. Go out more often with your friends.
Don’t always be hers and only hers. She’ll realize that pretty quickly and she’ll miss you. It might make her realize that she doesn’t want to share you; that she wants you all for herself.
Along with most things in life, timing is everything. Trust your instincts. Apply these dating tips when the time is right, moving as slowly or as quickly as your intuition deems necessary. Best of luck.