In this day and age, dating is tough. There are so many different types of blended families. It is hard to know what you are getting yourself into! Here are some tips if you find yourself dating a single dad.
7 Rules For Dating A Single Dad
#1. Kids Come First
You have to understand that his kids come first. And you want them to. This is a sign of how he is as dad and as a person. This shows you how he will treat you and your kids. If you don’t understand this, you may not want to date a single dad because kids always come first. If you do have kids of your own you will love a single dad who puts his children first! He will probably be attentive to yours as well which moms love of course!
Since his kids come first you have to be nice to them! And be sincere – kids can spot fakers. He probably can too. And keep in mind he will talk about his kids A LOT! Try to be patient with him and supportive. He will eventually realize he is doing it and bring the conversation back to you and other things.
#2. Learn To Be Flexible
Kids can be unpredictable. Kids also require a lot of attention and a lot of work. Plus they get sick! So you just have to understand that it is difficult for him to spend as much time with you as he would like to. Things might happen and he may be late or have to reschedule. Try to understand.
#3. Be Independent
Your boyfriend has a lot going on so it is better for everyone if you do too. Last thing he needs is another hungry mouth to feed. You also need your own life and activities, as his kids will have a lot of activities too! He won’t be able to spend as much time with you or as much on you as a man without kids may.
#4. Time & Patience
He won’t introduce you to his kids right away though. Give him time and be patient! He wants to make sure your relationship lasts before introducing you to his kids. Don’t take it personally; kids can be very sensitive about their daddy dating a new woman.
#5. Dealing With His Mom
You may have to deal with the mother. Unless the mother is out of the picture for some reason, she is here forever. Those kids mean everything to her and she is everything to her kids. You have got to be prepared to deal with her. Try to keep it civil. This will make things easier on everyone.
#6. Being A Stepmom
You may become the wicked stepmother. Just be cool, calm and even a little distant. Let the kids come to you. You have to be able to deal with them if they have a tough time adjusting.
Remember this is hard for them – to see their dad with some one other than their mom. Try to understand. Also, go slow. You don’t want to rush to playing mom. They already have a mom. Just try to be their friend.
#7. Are You Jealous?
You may be jealous – especially if you are single with no kids of your own. You may find yourself wondering can I do this? Or why am I feeling envious of a child? It is natural to want your man to put you first but with a single dad this is just not possible. And if it is, you don’t want that!
Yes it can be tough to date a single dad. It takes a level of patience and maturity that some women may not have but it can be very rewarding as well. There are great reasons to date a single father. They are usually more mature and considerate as well as kind, caring and patient.
They are used to putting some one else’s needs before their own. They don’t have time for drama. He has to be flexible, independent and unselfish. So this means a woman who can be this for him too will mean the world to him.