OK, admit it. Have you tried online dating? Have you thought about it? Actually, most singletons have. Online dating is a huge and growing industry. These sites offer more access to potential mates than ever before. But how do you make it work? How can you attract the right kind of date and how do you choose the best ones for you?
Before you jump on a site, check out these dating tips. And then get ready for romance!
5 Important Dating Tips
#1. Creating your profile: Be yourself at your best
The profile is the heart of your online dating persona. You want to create a profile that shows what’s unique about you. While it’s important to show your best side, to be well-groomed, take care of your hair and makeup and create a positive profile, it’s equally important not to give your future dates a false impression.
- Use a recent head shot photo showing your face without hats or sunglasses as your main profile picture.
- Include several photos, some of which show your full body.
- Be honest about the activities you love and the things that are important in your life.
- Be specific in your profile. Instead of just saying that you love animals, mention that you are a sucker for Schnauzers. Being specific will help you stand out.
- Update your profile often to stay fresh and interesting. If someone is considering contacting you but hasn’t yet, regular updates will show that you are actively looking and might tip the scales in your favor.
#2. Finding a date: Focus on commonalities
When you are browsing for someone to contact, look for people who have general common interests. If you love to read, look for someone who mentions favorite books. Your favorites don’t have to match, but the fact that you both love to read makes you more compatible.
Don’t get hung up on looks. Remember that personality will always be more important and we find beauty once we know who someone is, not just what they look like.
Look at how the dating profile is put together. Pay as much attention to how the profile is created as to what it says. This will tell you a lot about your interest’s personality.
If the description is beautifully written, that person is likely well-educated and well read. If the photos are sloppy and look old, the subject is likely not honest or doesn’t care to make a good impression.
If the description includes curse words, you can be sure that your possible date can swear like a pirate. You won’t learn everything from the profile, but you’ll get a good sense of the person who wrote it.
#3. Arranging the date: Use common sense
Once you’ve made contact with someone, don’t spend too long before arranging a meeting. After 5-10 email exchanges, you should know if you want to meet this person or not.
When arranging your first date, be sensible. Don’t share personal or financial information at this point. Meet in a public place and drive yourself to the meeting. Make sure someone knows where you are, who you are meeting, and how long you plan to be.
If your “creepy detector” goes off at any point, cancel plans to meet.
#4. Meeting your date: Have fun and be human
When getting ready for your date, remember the basics:
- Be clean and well-groomed
- Take time with your appearance – wear attractive clothes, do your hair
- Don’t drink before the date (and never more than two drinks on the date)
When you do meet your date, remember that you are not buying a car; you’re developing a relationship with a human being. Don’t begin by mentally listing all that is wrong with your date. So you didn’t find your dreamboat, but your date is still a person who deserves your consideration. Stay open and friendly and you might be surprised.
Even if you know pretty quickly that your date is not the love of your life, you can still have a great evening. Stay focused. Be polite and interested in the conversation. Relax and have a good time.
If, on the other hand, your date has decided that you are not the ideal love and has begun to send texts, look around, or ignores you completely, then you are free to ditch the dud and get out.
#5. After the date: Don’t give up
The vast majority of your dates will not end in marriage. Online dating gives you a chance to meet someone that you wouldn’t otherwise have found. That doesn’t mean it’s a love match.
If your date doesn’t want to continue seeing you, it’s not a rejection of you. It’s a chance for you to take note of what you did and didn’t like about that person.
You may find that you gravitate more toward a dry sense of humor or that you like introverts more than extroverts. As you date different people who will never be your spouse, you’ll learn what you really want in a love relationship, and you’ll have a better chance of finding just that.
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