Is Sex Important In A Relationship?
Sex is important in a relationship and it is important to feel sexually compatible with your partner. Sex is about power. Everyone likes to feel powerful. But who wants to be in control in the bedroom can sometimes feel like a power struggle especially if you and your partner cannot agree.
But sexual compatibility takes work just like anything else. Our desires also change over time. Communication is important between a couple as well as making your partner feel comfortable sharing his or her desires with you. Try to be open to their suggestions and be willing to get out of your comfort zone and try new things.
How To Make Your Sex Life Better?
One of the most important things is to be open and willing to work on your relationship and your sex life. If you and your partner are willing to put in the work then you are more likely to be compatible.
Part of love and sex is accepting the other person’s flaws and incompatibility. Use your differences as motivation to talk about what you want. “I really love it when you do this…” or “I would love to feel your hands all over me.” Try to stick to positive encouragement rather than negative statements such as ‘you never do this’ or ‘you never touch me.’
Try to focus on quality rather than quantity. Most people worry about their compatibility because one person wants to have sex more than the other. But this happens. So if you focus more on what you partner likes, the rest will fall into place. If the sex is great than although you boyfriend or girlfriend will still want more of it, they will be satisfied with it.
Sex Can Be Fun
When it comes to sex, in many cases, opposites attract. Things in common are great but if both like to be on top there might be some conflict. So it is nice when one partner is more dominant and the other submissive. It is good to take turns and to try new things but understanding your differences can really help.
If you see your connection is compatible then you are on the right track, whether or not you both have the same likes and dislikes. It is okay if one of you has a foot fetish and the other likes their hair pulled as long as you are willing to work with the other person.
Look at your emotional needs also because they affect your sexual needs. Don’t let yours become a relationship based on sex. You need to be compatible in other areas before, you can be compatible in the bedroom. And if you are not getting along outside the bedroom well, then that would explain why you aren’t having sex either.
Likewise, if you are getting along well in other areas than you will be more likely to be more connected sexually as well. Thus you can work on your relationship and your sex life to become more compatible as long as both partners are willing.
When do you know that it is just not working? When are you sexually mismatched?
If you or your partner are not willing to work on your relationship or your sex life, then you may not be compatible. If your partner is putting pressure on you to do something that you do not want to do, then that is something you want to talk with them about.
If it is just not getting better and they are still pressuring you than you are sexually mismatched. You shouldn’t have to put up with feeling uncomfortable with your lover.
If your partner wants to hurt you or put your safety at risk than he or she doesn’t care about you. Don’t be with some one who isn’t willing to protect you or your safety first.
If you are not able to reach a compromise with your husband or wife or you are not able to communicate and your sex life isn’t getting better than maybe you need to accept that you and your partner are not sexually matched.